Highlights

What’s LOVE got to do with it – DIALOGUE, that is?

Fain and Webster’s, Love is a Many-Splendored Thing, spoke to millions because it matched the reality of our experience. As I have reflected on the meaning of transformational dialogue, I have come to feel that the kind of dialogue I describe in my book is grounded in the many-splendored dimensions of love.

Jacqueline and I have been friends for decades. We worked together. We have different political and religious views. When I asked her what dialogue had meant to her in our relationship, here is what she said.
“That one is easy, Irving: LOVE – a deep appreciation of the other and a recognition of a common bond to make things better in the world.

Dialogue: A Way to Live, page 58
Spencer and I are from different backgrounds but for many years and in many different ways, we bonded and helped each other. Across race and geography, we engaged with each other in serious dialogue. Our shared love of God and God’s love for us sustained our caring relationship.

Dialogue: A Way to Live, page 92
My wife wanted to dance with me. Dancing was not my thing. I was not good at it. We danced with her lead in a physical dialogue, because we loved each other.

Dialogue: A Way to Live, page 56-57
Walter is a professional musician. We worked together for half-adozen years and practiced dialogue to make good things happen. We come from different ethnic and religious backgrounds. When my career took me in a different direction, we shed tears. Later, at a dinner club at which Walter’s jazz group was playing, he did a long piano improvisation on my favorite jazz piece, Mood Indigo. It was a warm reminder of our love for each other.

Dialogue: A Way to Live, page 82ff
When the neurons in our brains connect to create empathy, we are rewarded. Just making eye contact can release Oxytocin, the hormone that creates warm feelings from close connections. Empathy has a positive impact on our humanity and energizes transformational dialogue.

Dialogue: A Way to Live, page 70
Love is what enables humans to engage in the kind of dialogue that bridges across gaps, bonds as we share meaning with others and builds ways to make life better for all of us. Loving dialogue is a means to better ends – it is a Way to Live.

Irving Stubbs, Author Dialogue: A Way to Live